What Should I Do if My Kids Are Old Enough to Chew Their Own Lunch at School and I’m Still Peeing My Pants? 😳
Paula Bruckner | SEP 2, 2024

Let’s talk about something that many of us moms might be too embarrassed to bring up, even to our closest friends: leakage. Yes, the kind of leakage where you laugh, sneeze, or maybe jump on a trampoline, and suddenly you’re crossing your legs, praying for mercy. Whether your kids are just starting kindergarten or they’re off to college, urinary incontinence can sneak up on us and stick around way too long. But guess what? It doesn’t have to be this way! Today, we’re diving into why your pelvic floor might be misbehaving and what you can do about it.
Let’s face it ladies, when you’re dealing with urinary incontinence, it can feel like your body is betraying you. And if you’re thinking, “My kids are old enough to chew their own lunch at school—why am I still crossing my legs when I laugh?” you’re not alone. This common issue can be traced back to a sneaky culprit: a weakened pelvic floor.
Your pelvic floor muscles are the unsung heroes holding up your bladder, uterus, and bowels. When these muscles get weak—often after childbirth or as we age—they don’t do their job as well. And that’s when you start noticing leakage when you least expect it. Whether your kids are just getting off the bus from elementary school or they’re moving into their college dorms, urinary incontinence doesn’t care about your schedule.
The good news? You don’t have to live with urinary incontinence forever. Corrective exercise, especially focused on strengthening the pelvic floor, can be a total game-changer. By retraining those key muscles, you can start to regain control and say goodbye to embarrassing leaks.
According to Sarah Duvall DPT, a women’s health expert, corrective exercise isn’t just about doing Kegels all day long. It’s about learning how to properly engage your core and pelvic floor muscles during everyday activities. This can help you build a strong, supportive foundation that keeps everything in place—even when you’re laughing, sneezing, or enjoying a little trampoline time with your kids. You can read more about that here.
If you’re struggling with incontinence, working with a specialist who understands the importance of pelvic floor health can make all the difference. They’ll guide you through exercises that target the specific muscles you need to strengthen, ensuring you’re doing them correctly and safely.
You might be thinking, “It’s too late for me; my youngest is already in college!” But it’s never too late to start working on your pelvic floor health. In fact, women of all ages can benefit from strengthening these vital muscles, especially if you’ve been putting up with incontinence for years.
Here are a few simple steps you can start today to improve your pelvic floor strength:
1. **Practice Proper Posture:** How you sit, stand, and move throughout the day affects your pelvic floor. Keep your spine aligned and engage your core to support your pelvic area.
2. **Incorporate Pelvic Floor Exercises:** I don’t recommend Kegels, so try exercises like bridges, squats, and pelvic tilts. These moves can help strengthen your core and pelvic floor muscles.
3. **Seek Professional Guidance:** If you’re not sure where to start, working with a trainer who specializes in pelvic floor health (like me!) can help you develop a personalized plan.
4. **Consistency is Key:** Remember, it’s not just about doing exercises once in a while. Make these practices a regular part of your routine, and you’ll start to see improvements. Think about it like brushing your teeth– we all do that 4 minutes a day. If you could add 5-10 minutes of pelvic floor exercise per day, your pelvic floor would flourish!!
So, ladies, if you’re still dealing with leaks even though your kids are old enough to chew their own lunch—or their own textbooks—it’s time to take action. Strengthening your pelvic floor isn’t just about stopping the leaks; it’s about reclaiming your confidence, your body, and your ability to enjoy life without constantly crossing your legs. You deserve to laugh, sneeze, and jump on that trampoline without a second thought. Let’s work together to make that happen!
May your coffee and your pelvic floor be strong today,
Paula

Paula Bruckner | SEP 2, 2024
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